Are There Any Good Men Left Out There?

Are There Any Good Men Left?

As I read the profiles of women on Match.com (yes, I’m available), an often used line becomes increasingly apparent. This popular inquiry keeps appearing (usually at the end of their post regarding ‘who they are looking for’)… “Are There Any Good Men Left Out There?”

Yes, I am a ‘Good Man’, but it wasn’t handed to me on a platter! A ‘Good Man’ is a man who was forged into that state… not born that way.

Here is my take on what a ‘Good Man’ is.

What is a ‘Good Man’?

You say “There goes a ‘Good Man’”. Yet in the eyes of the Creator, there is NO ‘good man’ of his own accord or by his own hand. No. Not one.

1. Even the most benevolent and charitable men of their age will all fall short if they are Godless. Unless a man comes to know his Master, realizes that he was made to love Him above all others, turns from his own efforts, and then permits his Master to teach him ‘goodness’, compassion and love; that man has already received his reward. His wonderful deeds will not be remembered by the Creator when his time is finished.

2. A ‘Good Man’ is the man who knows he is fallible by himself, and in turn, unendingly strives to follow in the footsteps of Christ. Christ’s attributes include compassion, seeing the needs of His children and giving freely to them. Loving as a mother loves her child.

3. If a man loves his Creator and Savior, and desires above all else, approval of the Father, which inherently includes ‘How to Love’; then his Father in heaven can say, “Here is a ‘Good Man.”

What Women Want From a Man

The following is a summary of what I have painfully learned from a life ill spent.

What Women Long For:

Above all traits, a woman desires a man to be always truthful! To be immediately up front concerning all thoughts, actions and deeds of the man. This is the foundation for a successful relationship! A woman desires nothing less than ‘honesty’.

A woman desires a man who reveals his thoughts, his coming and going, and does not hide his intent or disguise his heart with false words.

A woman longs for a man who is attentive and takes a woman’s words to heart. He is not prone to turning away, or listening half heartedly (or not at all).

A woman longs to be acknowledged for all her works regardless of whether the works are of a charitable nature to others, or they are done exclusively for her ‘good man’, as in doing a kind, giving, and special act.

She desires to be complimented for her efforts to look nice or simply for her smile, and especially for any focused endeavors she has done from her heart. Failure of the man to acknowledge these woman’s doings, is a failed man. Such failure does not merit the love of such a woman as this.

THE BAD AND THE UGLY

I was a young man of confidence, yet a man who failed miserably to see all that I had been given. So much so, that eventually even that which I had was taken from me. I assumed that I knew more than I really did.

I worked hard with my hands, but lacked in wisdom.

I desired to be loved, but was naïve, and failed to realize that love is a two way street.

I foolishly assumed that the world revolved around me.

I was quick to accept (even expect) the kind loving acts of a woman, but came up short with regard to reciprocating it back to her.

I occasioned to hide my doings with silence or vague words, and ultimately suffered the cost and the loss.

I passed judgment where there was no authority given to me to judge, and which only resulted in the continuous renting and stretching of the very fabric of love.

THE GOOD

Above all things, I am humbled.

God, used my failings to teach me the intricacies of love, and instilled their attributes into my heart. Now I know what being ‘A Good Man’ demands of me. I’ve allowed God to remove the ‘amber clouds’ from my eyes so that I can see more clearly ‘How to Love’. I shudder as I recall my past. My heart is convicted to return to my foolish ways NO MORE! I may be forgiven for my past, but my past will always be branded into my mind, as a sign to remain vigilant in the ways of love.

Now my God may say, regarding me, “Here is my child who seeks me out, and is mindful to be ‘A Good Man’”.

Any love I receive, I do not deserve. Therefore, shall I cherish the one who would freely extend her heart to me. That Woman will be regarded by me as greater than the most precious jewel! She will  be my strengthener for all the days that I breathe.

See also article: Why You Can’t Find a GOOD Man; at http://davidisms.wordpress.com/2009/05/26/why-you-cant-find-a-good-man/

“Pay as You Drive” Insurance Hits Roads

Thu Oct 5, 2006 7:40 AM BST

By Jennifer Hill

LONDON (Reuters) – The “pay as you go” concept is nothing new: from mobile phones to utility bills, consumers are able to pay for goods and services at the point of consumption.

Now, Britain’s first “pay as you drive” car insurance policy has taken to the road.

The cost of the motor cover, from Norwich Union, will vary depending on when, where and how often motorists use their cars, determined by data from in-car global positioning system devices.

Customers will receive regular bills based on car usage, including the time of day journeys are made, the type of roads driven on and the mileage clocked up in the process.

Itemised bills — like those in the mobile phone industry — will detail the premiums charged for each journey, and the monthly total.

The usage-based car insurance, which will cost from a penny per mile, has been designed to help drivers control insurance costs and could save some up to a third on their current premiums, according to Norwich Union.

Iain Napier, director of “pay as you drive” insurance, said the cover would give motorists access to cover tailored to them and their driving habits — and could reward them with cheaper premiums.

“We’re confident that ‘pay as you drive’ insurance is simply a fairer way of calculating premiums and gives customers greater control, flexibility and choice,” he said.

Norwich Union unveiled the cover on Thursday following a pilot of 5,000 motorists. It has been trialling the “pay as you drive” insurance since 2004.

Charges will take into account the prevalence of accidents at various times or day and on particular roads.

Driving during a morning weekday rush hour is 50 percent more likely to result in an accident than driving at weekends or in the evening, while serious accidents are more likely to occur at night, according to data from Norwich Union and the Department for Transport.

Motorway driving, meanwhile, is up to 10 times safer than driving on low-speed urban roads.

The new insurance will cost from 1p per mile for off-peak motorway driving and from 4p per mile for off-peak urban driving.

Norwich Union has also launched a “pay as you drive” policy specifically for young drivers.

Those aged 18 to 23 will be charged lower premiums if they stay off the roads at night.

The cover will cost one pound per mile for journeys made during the hours of 11pm and 6am, but as little as 5p per mile for off-peak travel. Young motorists will also receive 100 or more “free” off-peak miles per month.

Young drivers account for 45 percent of fatalities on the road between 11pm and 6am and are 10 times more likely to have an accident at night, rising to 14 times more likely on weekend nights, according to industry statistics.

Kay Martin, head of the new insurance at Norwich Union, said the policy provided an “innovative solution” for young drivers.

“The future of insurance is tailored products to suit people’s lifestyle and the launch of ‘pay as you drive’ insurance is the first step in this direction,” she added.